\u201cA spiritual director is one who helps another recognize and follow the inspirations of grace in his life, in order to arrive at the end to which God is leading him.\u201d\u2013<\/i> Thomas Merton<\/p>\n
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In my previous post<\/a> on the future of Christian spirituality, I described getting to a place in my spiritual life where I felt stuck in terms of my longing to experience deeper levels of transformation. I needed help opening to a reality beyond myself and I needed guidance for beginning to rearrange my life for what I most deeply wanted. Help came through a spiritual director\u2014someone more experienced in the ways of the soul than I was, more practiced at recognizing God\u2019s invitations in the life of another, and willing to offer support in making a faithful response.<\/p>\n Our paths first crossed because she was a psychologist. I sought her out for therapy because I assumed that my \u201cproblems\u201d were psychological in nature and could be \u201cfixed\u201d on that level. Psychological insight and process were indeed valuable.\u00a0 <\/span>Invaluable, really. Looking back, I don\u2019t think I could have taken the spiritual journey God was inviting me into without taking some basic steps toward psychological health and wholeness\u2014things like differentiation from my pastor family\u2019s beliefs about God and learning to hear God for myself, wrestling with the deforming discrimination I had experienced as a woman in the church, and working through the anger, sadness, and disillusionment I was carrying because of what I had witnessed as a pastor\u2019s kid.<\/p>\n T<\/span>he psychological work we did actually made the spiritual journey more possible. \u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n Eventually, however, this wise guide observed that what I needed was spiritual direction.\u00a0 <\/span>She asked if I would be willing to shift the focus of our times together from therapeutic fixing and advice-giving to my relationship with God and the invitation to spiritual transformation contained within the questions that I was bringing. As a Protestant I had never heard of spiritual direction, given that spiritual direction is a gift that comes to us from the Catholic tradition, but I trusted her to know what was best and so we made the shift. \u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n When we entered spiritual direction, I had been working very hard at the spiritual disciplines my Protestant upbringing had offered\u2014Bible study, prayer, and service\u2014with a bent towards theology, statements of faith and intellectual assent.\u00a0 <\/span>I was sure I could \u201cbecome a better person\u201d if I just tried harder.\u00a0 <\/span>But part of my desperation was the fact that the practices and habits that people had told me were supposed to work in bringing about my transformation were no longer working, no matter how faithful I was to their program.\u00a0 <\/span>I was embarrassed and felt very defeated.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n Surprisingly, my spiritual director encouraged me to stop doing what wasn\u2019t working (!) and instead pay attention to what I was longing for.\u00a0 <\/span>It was the strangest and most wonderful feeling to let go of the Bible study and prayer methods I had practiced for so long, in faith that there might be something new for me! While I continued to function in the arenas where I had responsibilities, I now had a private place for letting go of what wasn\u2019t working and trying some new things. This was all very hopeful.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n Another helpful moment came when my director pointed out that I was in a transitional place in the life of prayer\u2014not falling off the spiritual path\u2014which I had been so afraid of.\u00a0 <\/span>She began to guide me into fresh (for me) disciplines that corresponded to my longings and desires, fostering new experiences with God. Her concrete guidance into practices like solitude and silence that were rooted in the broader Judeo Catholic Christian tradition, along with the confidence she conveyed, marked out a new path for me.\u00a0 <\/span><\/p>\n This space for reflecting\u2014without judgment\u2014on my spiritual practices was a great gift.\u00a0 <\/span>In this space, I was able to quiet my feelings of \u201cought\u201d and \u201cshould\u201d and instead pay attention to those practices that were no longer fruitful for me.\u00a0 <\/span>I found the freedom to let go of what wasn\u2019t working and claim fresh disciplines that corresponded to my most authentic needs and desires.\u00a0 <\/span>The practices of mindfulness, paying attention to one\u2019s breathing, building time into each day for silence and beyond-words communion with God, staying attuned to inner dynamics of consolation and desolation and allowing such awareness to shape my decision-making began to revitalize my parched and weary soul.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n Her experience with a wide variety of spiritual disciplines opened a treasure trove of spiritual possibilities for me, and offered a world of hope that there was more to the spiritual life than I had yet experienced. \u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n We live in what could be called a post-therapeutic culture, a culture in which psychology, which at one time seemed to be the answer to anything and everything, is now acknowledged to have limits.\u00a0 <\/span>We are not saying psychological therapy is not valuable, but we are<\/i> now more ready to admit that it has limits <\/i>in terms of what it can accomplish towards our transformation.\u00a0 <\/span>Even with the best psychological help, there comes a point when what most needs to be done in our lives only God can do\u2014and so we need help in finding ways to open to the mystery of God and God\u2019s transforming work in the human soul.<\/p>\n Thomas Merton describes this well in his book Spiritual Direction and Meditation. <\/i>He said, \u201cThe whole purpose of spiritual direction is to penetrate beneath the surface of a [person\u2019s] life, to get behind the fa\u00e7ade of conventional gestures and attitudes which he\/she presents to the world, and to bring out his\/her internal freedom, his\/her inmost truth, which is what we call the likeness of Christ in his\/her soul. This is entirely a supernatural thing\u2026for this work belongs first and foremost to the Holy Spirit.\u00a0 <\/span>The spiritual director cannot do such a work by him\/herself. The director\u2019s function is to verify and to encourage what is truly spiritual in the soul.\u201d (gender inclusive language mine)\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n \u00a0<\/span>Many psychologists are now acknowledging the limits of their discipline and are shifting at least part of their approach to incorporating elements of spiritual listening and spiritual practices into their work. It is not <\/i>that we are throwing out psychology but that we are seeking to fully integrate it with spiritual direction for a more holistic approach to our spirituality. Speaking for myself, I needed a gifted and highly trained director who knew which aspect of the person needed attention when and in what order.\u00a0 A<\/span>t times she would even tell me that she was returning to a more therapeutic approach when that seemed to be what was needed.\u00a0 <\/span>But she would let me know that\u2019s what she was doing and ask my permission, so the lines did not get blurred.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n Something else my spiritual director drew attention to that surprised me was the significance of attending to and caring for my body as part of my spiritual journey.\u00a0 <\/span>One of the first things she helped me become aware of (that I had not been aware of previously) was the false bifurcation I was living in; I was completely cut off from the awareness that I don\u2019t just have a body, I am <\/i>a body.\u00a0 <\/span>Because of the dualisms embedded in most religious training, she pointed me to the story of Elijah in Scripture (I Kings 19) so I could see that this great prophet\u2019s journey into the presence of God began with rest and attending to his body.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n All of this brings me to my second observation about the future of Christian spirituality\u2014it will include greater acknowledgement and intentionality around the charism and practice of spiritual direction emerging as a special gift from the Catholic tradition.\u00a0 <\/span><\/b>Such directors will be trained to attend to all parts of the human person as a unified whole\u2014body, mind and soul\u2014helping directees become more integrated in their approach to their spiritual journey. We will foster this kind of integration in our training programs, rather than continuing to propagate approaches to spirituality that slice and dice the human person into parts and pieces. \u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n Spiritual direction is a gift of our historic Christian faith that is fundamentally different in tone, spirit, and content from the discipleship, mentoring, and therapeutic models we have tended to rely on in our approach to transformation.\u00a0 <\/span>Because the spiritual life is, by definition, reliant on attentiveness to the human spirit becoming more and more responsive to the Holy Spirit of God within, relationships where individuals are supported in seeking greater attentiveness to that Spirit will be central to the future of Christian spirituality.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n \u00a9 Ruth Haley Barton, 2023. Adapted from a presentation given at The Future of Christian Spirituality<\/em> Conference<\/em> in honor of Fr. Ron Rolheiser in 2020.<\/p>\n Read more from\u00a0our ongoing series The Future of Christian Spirituality.<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n Visit our spiritual direction page<\/a> to learn more about spiritual direction for leaders and explore Ruth\u2019s reading recommendations on this topic.<\/p>\n The Transforming Center is pleased to offer a listing of spiritual directors<\/a> who have completed our two-year Transforming Community<\/em>\u00ae experience<\/a>, completed a recognized training program in spiritual direction, and have at least two years of experience.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" \u201cA spiritual director is one who helps another recognize and follow the inspirations of grace in his life, in order to arrive at the end to which God is leading…<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":3,"featured_media":18138,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[8],"tags":[4584],"class_list":["post-18302","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-beyond-words","tag-the-future-of-christian-spirituality-series"],"yoast_head":"\nA Shift in Focus<\/h4>\n
Transitions in the Life of Prayer<\/h4>\n
Spiritual Direction as Opening to Mystery<\/h4>\n
Towards a More Integrated Approach<\/h4>\n
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